I have a trans child. What do I do?

It's not rocket science, it's just loving and trusting your child. But here's some quick tips because we know it can be scary for you too. 

• Tell them you love them, accept them, and will support them. 

• Read up on transgender experiences and issues. Consider checking out some of our recommended documentaries. Understand the challenges they will likely face. 

• Be prepared for a journey. Gender transition, for those who choose to transition, is rarely a straight path. They may have to explore and experiment with things to figure out what is right for them. 

• Avoid making it about yourself. They are likely going through a lot of stress and need your support. Know first and foremost that they are the same person. You did not lose anything. 

• Offer to go clothes shopping with them, but don't pressure them to do anything. Each transgender person has to take their own transitioning steps when and if they feel they are right for them. 

• Be aware that they will likely be "coming out" for a while. Most people do not come out to everyone all at once. They will tell people they are comfortable with as they feel able to. Do not tell anyone else without asking them first, even your partner or family. You may be the only person they've trusted with this for now. 

• Offer to do or teach them gender-affirming things. For example, if they are a trans woman, offer to show them how to do makeup. 

• Finally, celebrate your child!